Today I’m delighted to tell you about Amy, who conceived against the odds via IVF, with me as her private fertility coach.
What happens when the problem isn’t you, but your partner? What if your partner can't produce sperm?
Infertility is very much a shared gender problem. Despite that fact, a lot of people jump to the conclusion that fertility challenges must be the woman’s. But statistics show that in 40% of infertile couples, the male partner is either the sole cause or a contributing cause of infertility.
If this is your situation, you may feel relief that you’re not the “guilty party” (or at least not the only one).
But it introduces a new challenge, too: how do you support your partner when he learns his body is not functioning as designed?
No matter that we live in modern times, there’s still a strong cultural taboo when a man is not able to produce sperm to get “his” woman pregnant. Like it or not, most men have fragile egos around that.
Infertility is emotionally challenging enough—and then you have to nurture your partner’s self-esteem too? It can all feel like too much. And when you know your only chance to give birth is via IVF, it can be a really hard decision to accept.
But if you approach IVF not from a place of “why us?” but as an opportunity for a miracle, you can generate amazing results regardless of what “the doctors” say.
I want to share with you Amy's success story to give you hope that even in the bleakest circumstances, miracles are possible.
Amy's IVF success against all the odds:
Amy’s husband Rob isn't able to ejaculate sperm, so the only way they could have a baby was via IVF.
When Amy and I started working together, she was 40 with a history of 4 unsuccessful IVF’s. Her husband had already gone through two surgeries to extract his sperm and this was the last time he would be able to have the procedure.
Because of her age, Amy was also nervous about her egg quality. As a couple, they had decided to use both donor sperm as well as her husband’s sperm, and see which embryos would fertilize. They were also retrieving donor eggs at the same time just in case. In other words, while they really wanted a biological child they were preparing for all the possible outcomes.
I worked with Amy for the 5 weeks leading up to the retrieval of her eggs, fertilization and implantation of the embryos. Every week we worked with her fears and negative beliefs. During our first session, we uncovered a doozy of a belief: “It’s my uterus’ fault. They keep putting babies in me and it keeps spitting them out.” I worked with her subconscious mind to clear that out, as well as the fear that 40-year-old eggs are too old.
The next week we worked through her fear of having ‘frankenstein’ babies and the ethical dilemma she felt around ‘making humans’ in a lab.
Week by week we continued clearing out subconscious blocks like: “my husband’s sperm will ‘crap out’”, “I’ll be a wreck if I’m faced with selective reduction,” and “I’m not a superstar pregnancy woman.”
In between our sessions, Amy did her fertility yoga practice with the Moon Goddess online videos, meditations and visualizations and prepared her mind, body and spirit for implantation and pregnancy.
This is the email she sent me after the transfer:
“We got 3 crappy quality embryos using Rob’s sperm. Of course, he was devastated by this. Two of the embryos were mediocre and one was bad. We got 3 excellent quality embryos from the donor sperm. So although it's not our first choice, at least there's good news there”….
“We decided to transfer the 3 embryos of Rob's into me. The doctor warned us that there was quite a low chance of achieving a pregnancy from these, but we wanted to give it a shot anyway.”
”But here's the good news: we were surprisingly upbeat today. Both of us are sort of putting the whole thing aside, and just getting back to life for the next two weeks. And it feels good … not obsessing over it, not being sad, just keeping busy and making plans to do fun stuff over the next few weeks while we wait…I'm still doing my meditations and visualization, but planning on doing it quietly and once a day (before bed). I want to keep my mind OFF of it all to a certain extent. That feels more relaxed and calm.”
And not long after, I was receiving emails like this:
“I have good news to report (yay!) … all seems well with the pregnancy and I am just one day away from reaching the 13-week mark. That feels HUGE to me, and brings with it some confidence and a bit of relief, such a nice feeling! We've told our friends and family now, which also makes it seem so much more real.”
Against the doctors’ expectations, one embryo was successful. Today, Rob and Amy have a healthy son.
So how did two ‘mediocre’ embryos and one ‘bad’ one that the Doctor believed they shouldn’t even try result in a healthy pregnancy?
I believe it’s because Amy and I worked to create the space in her mind, in her heart and in her body that her miracle was possible – and so it was.
I’m sharing Amy’s story because I believe you too can have your miracle baby. It’s only once you have worked through your fears that you are able to hear your intuition. Amy and I built a lot of confidence in her and in her inner knowing by tackling her fears and bringing her to the place where she could joyfully let go of expectation and control.
And because of that, she was able to hear and follow her own inner guidance–even when it meant saying “No” to the doctor. Amy is a mother now because of that.
Amy's story shows us that modern science and miracles really do go together.
In this instance, waiting for a miracle would never have succeeded: Rob was physically unable to ejaculate sperm, and could never have gotten Amy pregnant without IVF. At the same time, IVF alone had failed and was medically predicted to continue failing. Medical science needed a miracle, and Amy facilitated it through her inner healing work–and by trusting her own intuition over the doctor’s recommendation.
If you want to make a miracle happen in your own life, I invite you to apply for the same kind of personalized one-on-one coaching I gave Amy. If you're ready for my support, I’m here for you. I’m opening up spots for a free session this week only, and just until Sunday, April 30.
The first step is to APPLY for a no-cost fertility strategy session with me.
I’ll help you identify the limiting beliefs that are blocking your mind-body connection with respect to conception.
That’s my offer to you. And at the end of our conversation, I will tell you about how you can sign up to work with me one-on-one. If you say yes to receiving my help, I will support you 100% to create your miracle of pregnancy, no matter how impossible your situation seems. That’s my promise to you.
I would love for you to be my next success story! Apply to work with me as your private fertility coach.
It’s free to apply, and you’re in no way obligated to enroll. But you do need to feel ready to try something new!
I can’t wait to connect with you to get started creating your miracle!
P.S. Read more inspiring success stories HERE!