Can you transform a painful reminder into a confirmation that your heart's desire awaits you?
I’ve been noticing pregnant women and newborn babies everywhere. And I know from my clients how triggering this can be for a woman who is struggling to get pregnant.
Seeing others experience your own unfulfilled desire can be a painful reminder of what you don’t have.
If you too have been seeing baby carriages and pregnant bellies everywhere, I understand what you're going through. And I want you to know you're not alone.
For me, these sightings are daily! Sometimes I see up to five pregnant women and half a dozen babies in just one day! Thankfully something really magical has been happening that I want to share. I am hoping it will help shift things for you, even a teensy-weensy bit.
I practice a little ritual.
Whenever I see a baby carriage I get as close as I can. I try to make eye-contact. That look of innocence and wonder, opens my heart wide and I feel the universe smiling down on me. Looking into a baby’s eyes, I feel sparkles. For me, it’s the most magical feeling on the planet. Like the Universe is speaking to me through this beautiful being, letting me know that my baby is on her way. I take it as a ‘goddess wink'.
Instead of feeling the pang of ‘not having', I’ve been turning these baby and pregnant women sightings into a practice of saying “thank you. I take a breath and remind myself to open and receive. I don’t want to diminish anyone else’s experience or imply that my way is the right way to feel, but I wanted to share this practice because I wonder if it would be helpful for you, too. When the weather gets warmer, we’re going to see more and more expectant mothers and more and more babies in carriages. Since it’s not always possible to walk the other way, I hope my message can bring some joy into that interaction.
We're always going to see expectant mothers and babies in carriages. Since it’s not always possible to walk the other way, I hope my message can bring some joy into that interaction.
The next time you pass a pregnant woman on the street, experiment with seeing it as a confirmation that motherhood is on its way for you too. When you next see a newborn take a peak and see it as a smile from the Universe.
Moving toward Healing
If you want to take this practice deeper, start paying attention to what happens to you when you see a baby or expectant mother. What is the feeling that begins to surface before you try to push it down? Maybe it’s a reminder of a deeply painful loss. Maybe you have repetitive thoughts like “I’m the only one.” “It’s never going to happen for me.” “It’s so easy for everyone but me.”
Any of these can be a powerful sign that there’s healing to be done. Healing is the only way I know to neutralize the sight of that mother cradling her baby, to get yourself to a place where that doesn’t have to be painful—and where you can maybe even celebrate it.
But if that seems like way too much right now, don’t worry. What’s important here is to realize that you have healing to do. That awareness is the first step.
Love and delight,
P.S. If you're preparing for IVF and you know you need healing in order to make your treatment a success, you'll want to check out my 3 Checklists for IVF Success. The series starts on the outside with detoxing and cleansing your body and environment, but the 3rd and most crucial step takes you inside yourself to exactly this type of shifting of your thoughts and beliefs.