Problem number 3 of being a masculine woman is all about control.
When we’re not getting what we want we often feel frustrated, angry and desperate for change.
Physically, you might notice a tightness in your chest, a clenching through your jaw and/ or knots in your belly. Another common feeling is a lot of pressure in your head.
Instead of spaciousness and relaxation there is a lot of tightness and contraction in your body and in your heart.
Emotionally, when things are not working out it’s common to become more controlling and get defensive.
The problem with becoming more controlling is this actually creates distance and disconnection from your heart and your emotions.
Here’s a good example:
A lot of women think using ultimatums or veiled threats will get their romantic partners to change their behavior.
Telling your husband or the man (or woman) you’re dating “You better not be late” even as ajoke, is repelling. These words do not inspire a feeling of closeness or intimacy.
Instead say something like “It would mean a lot to me if you could come home (or come over if you’re still dating) by 6:30 tomorrow.” And then be open for their response.
No threats or ultimatums, just a genuine expression of what you want.
This means willing to be vulnerable and I know for many of you vulnerability feels uncomfortable and even unsafe.
But it doesn’t need to. Authentic sharing of your heart is what intimacy and connection is all about and is ultimately what creates a loving connection between two people.
So Zahra, I would love to give you a free resource that I think will really help you open your heart and your body to more love, connection and intimacy.
It’s a FREE training I created called, ‘5 Secrets to to Reclaiming Passion and Rekindling Intimacy.’
Here’s a sneak peek at what you can expect:
• The 5 most common mistakes that rob you of true intimacy and how to avoid them.
• Essential tips for how to express your negative emotions to actually build intimacy with your partner rather than tear you apart.
• Ways to turn off your “busy mind” and tune into your partner in a loving, focused way.
• The most powerful and ancient method for connecting to your feminine ‘magic’.
• Yoga and meditation practices that enhance your beauty and empower you as a woman.
Love and delight,
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